Title- Standing Up Is Hard
Why Write About This? I am writing about this because I had to do it yesterday. Is there importance behind this issue that I decided to write about standing up? Yes, in Life Ethics and Worldview Class I was challenged to Stand up for my values and beliefs. Will this example apply to the reader? If you have morals and beliefs and values, then yes. ENJOY!!!
So yesterday I was in a public area for college students, enojoying fellowship with some friends, while eating supper. Supper was going well until one student decided to talk about another student and pick out his bad characteristics. Without anger, I stated, "This doesn't sound like it is very edifying to the people you are talking about, so why are you pointing out his faults." The correction stood, but I could tell there was a sour taste left behind to the one rebuked. Then shortly after, another friend came and sat down. She was not having the best of days, you could tell by her body language and emotions. The supper conversation continued just fine, until four of my friends went to get drinks and more food. When that happened the kid one seat away from me standing decided to say the word ni**a. I looked at him with a surprised facial reaction, before I could say anything he said it again, but used the term ni**er. I corrected him by saying, "watch your mouth (insert name)." He then told me to shut the h*ll up. (I'm completely shocked by this behavior at the moment) I told him, " no, you need to remember where your at." He replied, "man I don't care" I replied, "You should care". He said, "shut the f**k up man," but then he added."I'll punch you in you f***ing face." I continued with this conversation by saying ," no you won't, if you do that you will get kicked out." He replied by saying, " man I don't care". I told him that if he didn't care then to dismiss himself from standing at our table. ( Because the sum of us there didn't want to hear his vulgar terms for black people or me) He then tried to antagonize me and so he sat down and said, "make me". I ended this by saying no (insert name) I will not resort to your level, I know where I'm at. He then sat for a couple minutes and left.
After reading this you maybe shocked that I used the language that (insert name) used, but I wanted you to connect to the story, that I was faced with. I do not normally use those terms, so if you took offense to that, let me know and I'll consider you next time I ever write a story like that. My main point behind this story is obviously standing up for your beliefs and values. Some people might say that I have no right to correct him in front of 3 people. But I didn't do it for the glory, I did it because I didn't want him to think it was okay. I was not looking for the ordeal I had in discussion with him, but thats the risk of confronting people in situations like that. Another reason I took this term personal is because my old best friend from college is black, I hated it when people used those terms then and I still do now.
Overall I would like to know your ideas on this story. Was I wrong in saying something? Should I have gone to him personally and confronted him? Or did I do the right thing, knowing that he would just brush it off his shoulders when confronted in a group, as he would have done in private? Either way I confronted him as a reaction, it was like the matrix. It wasn't something that was planned out.
Monday, November 15, 2010
Monday, November 1, 2010
Bad Days
If your a family member of mine, please do not read this. MOM!!! (its personal, and I don't want you to see it.)
So this New post is something from the Heart. So if you really do not care to read something that has meaning to one person's life, I suggest you read another blog or page.
What are bad days?
According to most people I ask bad days are in massive ranges of things. One might say I broke a nail, that's a bad day. Another might say I stepped on a bug, that's a bad day. In fact another person might say I didn't go for a walk or exercise, that's a bad day. These all are bad things to those people, but to a crowd are these bad days? I like to think not, despite what those individuals say is a bad day for them. To me a bad day does not even come close to the disappointment that I mentioned early. A actual bad day can progress to a bad couple of days, maybe even a week or two. This is where it starts to get personal.
Here are my personal examples, that qualify in my life as Bad Days...
1. Mother wakes up to being raped, and I am the conceived child.
2. Dad leaves mom, because he is not man enough to live and love the right way.
3. Mom strives so hard as to work three jobs, that I call my sister/babysitter mom.
4. Mother goes through 3 marriages still not having the man she rightfully deserves.
5. When young, my mom leaves and says see is taking off, I react by ripping the board off my bunk bed. Hence smacking my mouth and getting knocked out for my first time. Result, Dental damage,blood, and I messed up my root system, otherwise would have had perfect teeth.
6. Watching my mom dance with her 3rd husband, while he pushes me away when I try and hug her. Maybe because he was drunk, not sure.
7. Waking up to the fact that most of my family is lost and without a relationship with God.
8. Hearing more stories of how my sister does/sell drugs.
9. Hearing the same about my brother.
10. Going to my sisters house and seeing the want to change, but not the will to change.
11. Seeing my sister cry her heart out for people, yet getting screwed over on a daily basis.
12. Seeing my brother everyday, while he envies me for my second chances.
13. Failure in the eyes of my mother when I make a mistake.
14. When I personally stumble and I feel guilt from sin.
15. When I get the feeling I can no longer look up and ask God if he is pleased with me.
16. When I go home from college and a friend dies.
17. When I go home from college and after a friend dies another 2 people die.
18. At the same time as above, a friend of mine gets beaten up and almost robbed.
19. Also at the same time above when my cousin and her mom get jumped at a local store and I cannot do anything about it.
20. When someone turns down the opportunity to come before Christ.
21. When I no longer feel a passion for volleyball.
I gave 21 statements of things that are Bad Days to me. I did this because I could go on for quite awhile; I am 21 so I gave one for each year I have been aged. Like I said these are personal, I will not lie to you guys, writing this made me cry. Seeing all the pain in my life can make me do that I guess. But Knowing God is there takes care of most the pain.
My point is simply this, just because one thing in your day does not go right, do not call it a bad day. Maybe you could call it a good day with one mishap. That way your not over using the words Bad Day. There are always more people who have it better and worse. I do not have it the worse nor the greatest, and with that I am satisfied that I have no other significant pains.
PS. You might ask why I didn't write about Good Days.... I did this for a reason, people in this world always let there Bad out way their good. My hope in putting my life out there is that maybe people can start focusing on the good in their lives and allow that to out way the bad in their life.
So this New post is something from the Heart. So if you really do not care to read something that has meaning to one person's life, I suggest you read another blog or page.
What are bad days?
According to most people I ask bad days are in massive ranges of things. One might say I broke a nail, that's a bad day. Another might say I stepped on a bug, that's a bad day. In fact another person might say I didn't go for a walk or exercise, that's a bad day. These all are bad things to those people, but to a crowd are these bad days? I like to think not, despite what those individuals say is a bad day for them. To me a bad day does not even come close to the disappointment that I mentioned early. A actual bad day can progress to a bad couple of days, maybe even a week or two. This is where it starts to get personal.
Here are my personal examples, that qualify in my life as Bad Days...
1. Mother wakes up to being raped, and I am the conceived child.
2. Dad leaves mom, because he is not man enough to live and love the right way.
3. Mom strives so hard as to work three jobs, that I call my sister/babysitter mom.
4. Mother goes through 3 marriages still not having the man she rightfully deserves.
5. When young, my mom leaves and says see is taking off, I react by ripping the board off my bunk bed. Hence smacking my mouth and getting knocked out for my first time. Result, Dental damage,blood, and I messed up my root system, otherwise would have had perfect teeth.
6. Watching my mom dance with her 3rd husband, while he pushes me away when I try and hug her. Maybe because he was drunk, not sure.
7. Waking up to the fact that most of my family is lost and without a relationship with God.
8. Hearing more stories of how my sister does/sell drugs.
9. Hearing the same about my brother.
10. Going to my sisters house and seeing the want to change, but not the will to change.
11. Seeing my sister cry her heart out for people, yet getting screwed over on a daily basis.
12. Seeing my brother everyday, while he envies me for my second chances.
13. Failure in the eyes of my mother when I make a mistake.
14. When I personally stumble and I feel guilt from sin.
15. When I get the feeling I can no longer look up and ask God if he is pleased with me.
16. When I go home from college and a friend dies.
17. When I go home from college and after a friend dies another 2 people die.
18. At the same time as above, a friend of mine gets beaten up and almost robbed.
19. Also at the same time above when my cousin and her mom get jumped at a local store and I cannot do anything about it.
20. When someone turns down the opportunity to come before Christ.
21. When I no longer feel a passion for volleyball.
I gave 21 statements of things that are Bad Days to me. I did this because I could go on for quite awhile; I am 21 so I gave one for each year I have been aged. Like I said these are personal, I will not lie to you guys, writing this made me cry. Seeing all the pain in my life can make me do that I guess. But Knowing God is there takes care of most the pain.
My point is simply this, just because one thing in your day does not go right, do not call it a bad day. Maybe you could call it a good day with one mishap. That way your not over using the words Bad Day. There are always more people who have it better and worse. I do not have it the worse nor the greatest, and with that I am satisfied that I have no other significant pains.
PS. You might ask why I didn't write about Good Days.... I did this for a reason, people in this world always let there Bad out way their good. My hope in putting my life out there is that maybe people can start focusing on the good in their lives and allow that to out way the bad in their life.
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